Microblog Mondays: Don’t Rock the Boat?

“I love [Nanny’s name] days,” E. told me one day last week.

“That’s great!” I replied. “What do you like so much about them?”

“She always has so many great ideas for what we can do after school.”

“Of course she does,” I said. “She doesn’t have to worry about cooking dinner or cleaning the house or all the other things. Her whole job is to have fun with you.”

P. & E. are happy with the new routine. In fact, they’re thriving. P. loves her new routine so much that she gets cranky if I don’t do things the same way L. (our nanny) does.

Q. is enjoying his day at home with P. and is somehow able to do the grocery shopping, clean the entire house, and get most of the laundry done, all between dropping E. off at school and putting P. down for her nap. Apparently P. just potters around next to him and has a nice time rather than attaching herself to his leg and screaming until he picks her up, which is what happens when I try to do any of the above.

All of which raises the question: if everyone else in your family is happy, is it selfish to want to change things just because you aren’t?

I still miss my baby.

I miss my big kid.

But they don’t miss me.

This post is part of #MicroblogMondays. To read the inaugural post and find out how you can participate, click here.



Filed under Blink and you'll miss it, Butter scraped over too much bread (a.k.a. modern motherhood), Microblog Mondays

5 responses to “Microblog Mondays: Don’t Rock the Boat?

  1. Of course it is not selfish to want to change things if you are not happy. But best not to change the things that are working for the others. So my question to you is: what needs to change so that you are happy?
    Side note, of course the kids are thriving. You spent a lot of time and effort to make sure the situation would suit them well, and it does. Plus kids (and babies especially!!) thrive on novelty and new (even kids who like routines, as E. does). So well done you! You cracked one of the hardest things to do with young ones – find care you trust and that allows your kids to not just be taken care of, but to thrive and grow.

  2. Also they absolutely miss you. But you have also done a wonderful job in making them feel secure and loved. They know you are always there for them, that they are safe. It is hard on the heart that independent kids are what you strive for, when each new stage of separation is tough for us!

  3. I can’t beat labmonkey’s comments, which are spot on. But I think it would be very natural to feel the way you’re feeling.

  4. Agree 100% with labmonkey’s comments! Imagine the flip side though- the kids hating your nanny. That’s for sure worse.

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