A toe in the ocean

A first post seems so self-conscious, but I suppose that’s the nature of blogs.  I’m writing because I need an outlet, a place to consider the journey I’ve found myself on by trying (and failing thus far) to have a baby.

In some ways I’ve been hesitant to take this step.  I’m not sure whether I belong here, whether I can label myself as infertile.  I’m wary of the strange pseudo-competitive nature of infertility I’ve see references to on other blogs.  I don’t want to compare and rank suffering, to measure and serve out pain in precisely-ordered allotments tied to treatment protocols.  I don’t know what anyone else is going through.  I’m sure my fears will seem small to some.

But I do know this.  I am angry and frustrated with my body’s failure to ovulate.  I am disappointed by my inability to share the contented optimism of my husband, who believes that this will all be sorted out within a few months.  I am saddened to an extent that has surprised me by the realization I will not get pregnant without medical help.  I have been stunned by my desire for a child, now that the making has not come easily.  

I hope this blog will become about much more than infertility.  I hope I’ll be writing one day about pregnancy, birth and parenting.  If it turns out that my wait for a child is a short one, I think I’ll want this reminder of how bleak the situation seemed at the beginning, and how badly my child was wanted.  If I’m settling in for the long haul, I want a record of how I felt along the way.  And if my words can be of use to someone other than myself, so much the better.

I hope you enjoy the ride. 

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  1. Pingback: The fifth year « Res Cogitatae

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